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"What if i said no?"

"I will wait until you say yes."

鸡腿

今天无意中看到了一篇引人深思的文章。

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有对老夫妇，两人携手走了半世，却在该享清福的时候，两人一前一后走进了律师楼。

为的是要办离婚。

离婚后，两人约在第一次约会的餐厅，一起共进最后一次的两人晚餐。

老先生一如既往，夹了个鸡腿，跟老太太说:"鸡腿给你，吃吧。"

岂料老太太竟说:"其实，我很爱你，可是你这个人真的太自我了，每一次都是你说了就算。也没问过我的意见。其实你知不知道，我最讨厌吃鸡腿了。"

老先生听了，说:"其实，我就是最爱你了。所以我一直都想给你最好的东西。你知道吗。我最爱吃的，就是鸡腿。"

两人沉默不语，心中个自感慨，原来多年的婚姻，竟输给了沟通两个字。

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有时候，我们是不是也一样呢?在该沟通的时候，选择不坦白，心中自以为是的认为"他/她 应该要谅解我。"

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可是我们却忘了，在一起的两个人，本来都是个体的一个人。对方又不是你心中的蛔虫，怎么有可能无时无刻都了你在想什么呢?

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两个人能在一起，是缘分，也是福分。但要感恩，因为那一份幸运的眷恋，不是理所当然的。

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爱一个人的时候，我们会有无穷的耐性，会不计较的容忍，会不舍得拒绝，只因我们会心疼他/她失望的眼神。

就如老太太一样，就算不喜欢，也会因为对方的殷勤而照单全受。就如同爱人送你一个不是很爱的礼物，你还是会开心的收下，因为你感动的，是那一份心意。

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同样的，爱一个人的时候，我们会一心想要给对方最好的，会自我牺牲，会不舍得争取，只因我们会心疼他/她排在第二的委屈。

就如同老先生一般，就算很喜欢，也会因为想要对方享有最好的而作取舍。就好像你很爱的食物，在点餐是你会因为对方的喜好而避开不点，因为你想成就的，是对方的喜悦。

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但是，在这当时，有没有停一停，听一听对方所要的，是不是你所以为的最好?

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我们常常一厢情愿的以为，自己为对方作了多大的付出。

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冲突的时候，以为不骂不吵，就是很大的忍让。心中OS我也不是好惹的，换作是别人，我早给他骂个狗血淋头了！

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再想一想，真的是这样吗?

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不言不语，真的好吗?你不说，对方怎么知道?

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相爱的两个人，何必沦得以沉默代替沟通呢?

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有意句话说得好:"愿意留下来跟你争吵的人，才是真正爱你的人。"

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因为他/她在乎你想说的一切，因为他/她不舍得留你一个人难受。

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这世上，没有一百分的另一半，只有一百分的两个人。

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为了你们的一百分，请沟通，请倾听。

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不要相爱到最后，输给了沉默。

Don't Take For Granted

An unfortunate incident happened in the family yesterday. An aunt went to India and met an accident. We lost her there.

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I remember my aunt as a loving and caring lady. We seldom met as she lived in KL. But each time meeting her was a wonderful experience. She was a passionate person. So lively and chatty. But now she is gone.

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This is how unpredictable life can be. You never know that the goodbye you said this time would mean goodbye forever. It never crossed you mind that the chat you had this time would be the last word you heard from someone in your life. Last moment you were sharing a hearty laugh together and the next moment, you were left with coldness and tears in your heart.

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People like us, we always think people and things around us are meant to be with us. In times, we failed to appreciate. Instead, we tend to take for granted. We like to say "never mind, i will do it tomorrow."; we say "what's the rush? we will see how it goes tomorrow."; or we would say "aiya..next time la.." etc. etc. etc.

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But have it ever occurred to you that there might not be next time? That tomorrow you were saying might never come? Every precious in you life might not be there forever. You just never know.

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Please. Don't take for granted. If there is anything you want to do, don't wait. If you really cared for anything or anyone, don't wait anymore. Don't wait until something unfortunate happened then only regret your hesitation or procrastination. Treasure everyone. And appreciate every little thing in life.

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May all of us are showered with goodness and blessings at all times.

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R.I.P. aunt. We will miss you.

认了吧

一个人的时候，看看书，上上网。
想要有人陪的时候，也一样，看书，上网。
没差呀。

二十五岁了，还学什么小女孩撒娇?
若觉得烦，累，怒，悲，
那。。
一样，
看看书，上上网吧。
你几岁了?还奢望有人为你挡风遮雨吗?

醒吧！
自己的事，麻烦你自己解决。
不要撒娇，不许软弱，也轮不到你颓废。
想发牢骚的时候，请你闭上你的嘴巴。谁有闲情安慰你啊?
醒啦！
不行吗?还是心烦气躁吗?
那，去睡吧！
睡醒了，脑袋也清醒了。
就忘了那些恼人的事吧。

只是，这样的压抑法，行吗?通吗?
你会开始渐渐地沉默，慢慢地忘了怎么说话。
开始像个贝壳般，撬不开。
你的思绪，会开始凝结。
你的情绪，会开始封锁。
你的每一天，会越来越单调。

可是，
人生就是如此这般。

怒了，收声。
累了，休息。
悲了，独处。
为自己找个出口，但麻烦不要骚扰他人。
没有事情不会过去，身边的人也不一定会长留。
你的人生，请你自己走。

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若很幸运，有人携手，麻烦请你好好珍惜。
感谢你那被眷顾的人生。
若落单了，也麻烦你好好珍惜。
感谢这世上还有惊喜。

人，生来是个体的。
处在世上，也是个体的。
心心相印，是福气。
独立生活，是勇气。
好好照顾自己吧。
一个人的生活，会少了牵挂，多了自己。

爱情是滋润，亲情是温暖。
雨一定会下，太阳也一定会升起来。
同样的道理， 没有说一定不行。

在一个人的时候，学会独处，沉淀。
在两个人的时候，好好相处，分享。

也许有时会看不清楚，但一定要相信，一切会很好。

人生难免会存有期待，但还是一样，旅途中麻烦自己学会坚强，不要累了自己，也累了人家。

Bali Day 1 : 20090613 - Besakih Mother Temple

The over-the-top sunnies.

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Circling the temple.

Step up.

\(#^.^#)/

Traditional Bali architecture.

Blue sky. Green view. White cloud. Need to say more?

Woah!

Climb but please stop at the gate.

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Bali Day 2: 20090613 - Fat Yogi Cottages

0700 HR, Good morning to Morning 1. \(^.^)/


Breakfast by the pool.

We didn't get to swim though. Too packed for that.

Leaving. Starting of journey around Bali.

Bali Day 1 - 20090612

On the plane to Bali.

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Supper. Yes it's McD. We have to.

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Our first bill in rupiah.

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Triple beef burger.

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The small alley of Bali.

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Fat Yogi Cottage, Kuta, Bali.

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My bed. Good night to Night 1 in Bali.

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Oh my god!!! !!!

I was about to heave a sigh of relief (finally made some decent progress in the Managing Human Resources assignment)when i opened up the Economics Environment of Business paper and saw the questions... and i have yet to study the questions for Accounting and Finance!

All i want to do now is S>C>R>E>A>M!!!

Why do these assignments have to be so darn difficult and so over -the-top challenging???!!?!?

Argh..argh..argh...argh...ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Two weeks to due date and the one i nearly but haven't finish has already took me a darn two weeks!

MY GOD!!!!!

Tranquility

Hope to see you soon.

State of Numbness

I came across a few troubling situations this year. Somehow it makes me realize how powerless i am over a few matters that are so important to me.

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In life, there are a lot of unfairness. Maybe there is something that you want so badly, but you know deep in your heart that it won't materialise. It's hard. But it's true.

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At this point of my life, i have a plan, which i wish is on track. I have my wants and needs. But i have to make sacrifices. It may seems unfair. But it's just how it is. I just can't complaint.

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In reality, there are a lot of things in life that affect your decision. Most of the times, the biggest influence comes from the people who are most close to you. I tried my best to go after what i want in my life. And now, i am still trying my best. Although i do feel tired, although sometimes i lost hope, i still try because i believe in efforts.

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I am a very stubborn girl. I don't like the idea of giving up. I don't approve people who stop halfway and show no enthusiasm. Nor do i agree with people who just say a plan but never show effort in realizing it. It is my belief that if you are really passionate about something, no matter what are the obstacles, you will still go for it. Reality is already hard, if you still let loose of what you want, you are making it harder. Don't give yourself excuse like i can't now, or see how it goes, or never mind, this can wait etc.

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Bullshit.

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Life is short. Live it to the fullest.

Cow Skin Tang Lung

I am an observer, and most of the time, i am affected by the matter or person i am observing. I am not really sure if this is natural.

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Facebook these days happened to be flooded with wedding photos. Friend's wedding, or friend of friend's wedding.

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I have a friend who has a crush on a girl. But to bad to say, he was to slow in making up his mind on going after the girl of his dream. In the end, the girl is attached to another guy.

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This really got me thinking.deep.

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You know in life, sometimes you just have make a decision without any second thoughts. Life won't retake. And it's really true when people say "u missed the chance once, u missed it forever."

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Some people hesitate whether to change the job he or she hates so much. Some wonder if it is the right time to continue study. Some doubt if it is the right time to start a relationship.

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People. Sometimes they just worry too much.

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Please. Open up your mind and listen to your heart. Just go with it for God's sake!

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If you think you had enough of your boss, then start looking for a new one!

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If continuing your study had always been in your future plan, then fill in the application form!

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If you know you loved someone, and you know you want to be with him or her, then confess!

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What is so difficult in taking the first step to start realizing your dream?

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I don't understand.

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People just love to wait.

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Oh, i will wait until i........, then i will..........

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Then?

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Wait until you lost your passion? Wait until you lost that precious someone?

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Passion won't burn forever. Most importantly, people won't live forever.

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Life is u.n.p.r.e.d.i.c.t.a.b.l.e.

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When you found that special someone, don't wait.

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Don't say "I will wait until i achieve this level in my career then i will try to win her over."

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Or "I will wait for another year then maybe i will plan for my future."

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If you asked me, i would say i don't get it. This waiting shit.

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If you keep on waiting, what good it would bring?

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Just make that decision. Do what you need to do. Just go on!

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If you succeed, then congratulations! Your wish has come true.

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If you failed, then live with it. It's not like you will die.

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I think i am too emotional already.

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Anyhow, JUST DO IT LA PLEASE...............................

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Still hesitating? Still being overly-rationalistic? then...... go to sleep la.

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Cow-skin tang lung, never lit.

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Bali (by fushimii) Get in the holiday mood!

Well, i went to Bali last June and it was splendid! Spent 5 days and 5 nights and went from one place to another. Kuta - Ubud - Lovina - Nusadua - Kuta.
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Beach + Sunshine + Breeze = Flowery dress (of cause!!!)

The dress is from http://www.fushimii.blogspot/. An online boutique run by my lovely friend. Phey, as promised. ;)
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And, an additional photo showing a casual top from fushimii as well. Love it!

~#(^_^)#~

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waiting

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torturing

F & F

I hate it when i failed in my attempt to focus. It's so frustrating. I am running out of time to complete my assignments. Have been trying my best to digest the notes but it's so difficult to relate. I have never love economy. But this is what i am doing now. The terms are so foreign. It took me such a long time to understand the paragraphs. And then, b.l.a.n.k.

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I hate to fail so i am going to try harder. .
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Afterall, the fees are paid...

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ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

A++

I am an average girl. But i am lucky to be an average girl. The most important thing is, i am lucky to find myself an A++.

Life may not be fulfilling sometimes. But i am blessed with the best gift.

Thank you. For coming into my life.

You know who you are.

:)

25 = 52

I came across some sayings some times ago that when a girl reach the age of 25, she will be shocked to see how the state of her once youthful skin deteriorates. And, isn't it so true. I am not yet 25 but my skin already look like it belongs to a 52-year-old..

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Ok..maybe a little too exaggerating..but seriously i think it's true. T___T

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I used to never worry about any skin problem when i was in secondary school. Of cause apart from all those never-ending teases about how dark i am..However, skin condition was never a problem.

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But now..

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My skin is:

- oily

- acne-prone

- dull

- and dark. This will never change of cause.

- and it takes ages to recover from any acne marks..

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This is really annoying.

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I bought some supposed-to-be-good facial products few months ago. But i don't think there is any improvement. Advertisement tipu punya..

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Anyway, is there any other good and express way to good skin?

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I ain't a smoker. I ain't a drinker. I cut down spicy food. I don't fancy oily and fried food. And i gurgled something like 4 litres of plain water every day.

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But why is this still happening.

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This is so darn unfair.

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I Am Really An Introvert

I haven't been seeing anyone except my collegues and family since i came back from KL 2 weeks ago. What have i been doing? My room + my books = rooting in my bed.

On my god.

干物女??!!!?!?

宅女??!?!?!?

u name it.

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My sweeties, we need to catch up...

Happy Anniversary To Us

20th July marked a big 1 for us.

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The day went on without any special celebration because it was a Monday. We bought a little present for each other in KK a few days before the anniversary. Well, my boyfriend is not really romantic. Haha. So, no point putting up hopes for a surprise. Anyway, it's ok. starting to realize that i no longer mind about passing a special day without any special celebration..is it because of age?oh my..
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1 year. 12 months. And we are still learning to compromise. Of cause occasional quarrels are inevitable, but it's a process. :)
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Wish us many happy years to come.